With many people committing suicide every year, bullying might not be the most common cause of death, but it is still an important factor, which is pretty disturbing, since the person that commits suicide was so deep in grief that death seemed the better alternative. Which is why it is quite important to know where your child stands regarding bullying. Do they bully others? Do others bully them? Whatever the case, here is how you as a parent should deal with the situation:
1. If Your Child is Being Bullied: One of the many reasons that teens often get bullied is the reason that they aren’t popular, or the strongest person in school, or have good grades and don’t talk much with others. It seems bitter, and it is, because candy coating the facts isn’t going to yield anything. On the other hand, what you can do is deal with the situation as a parent by talking to your teen first. Ask them regarding the reason they are constantly bullied, or even whether it is bullying or just joking around in the first place. As we mentioned earlier, we won’t sugar coat anything so if your teen is weak and is getting bullied, it is time to make them strong and stand up for themselves. A pep talk will be great. We aren’t promoting your teen to start a fight by any means, but a firm way of talking with threatening the bullies to get reported if they continue is certainly necessary. If the problem still persists, talk with the parents of the other teens and the principal of the school.
2. If Your Child Is Bullying: While bullying other people certainly is bad in every possible way, there are times where you must look past the anger you have for your child’s action and look into their mentality. What is the reason for them for bullying? Many a time, teens just bully because they feel it makes them popular, or because of their short-tempered nature. Finding out the reasons and assessing it with the child first might be the cause for a positive result. You sometimes might even have to take them to a counselor if the situation requires it but if your teen has understood it and wants to change, it’s best to make them forget about it and start anew. You can easily do this by making your teen befriend the other person that they bullied.