One of the most important aspects to dating as a single mom is figuring out when you’re ready. Too many women are too quick to jump into a relationship, which often ends badly. You need to be ready mentally and adapt your strategies to finding a mate. Dating is a bit different when you have a child waiting for you at home. You need to make sure that you’re protected as well as the child.
Dating for the Right Reasons
It’s easy to fool yourself into thinking that you’re falling in love with someone. This is often the result from frustration of being left alone to care for a child or being financially restricted due to inadequate income. You need to be with someone not because of the money the person makes or what he or she can do for your child. Being in a relationship based on tangible benefits often ends relatively sooner than later. You should be with someone because you want to share yourself with that person. Don’t say, “yes” to the first single individual that walks by simply because you think you need someone to help you. That’s what friends and family are for – continued support through the rough times.
Don’t Force Something to Happen
Trying to force a relationship is always a bad idea. Some of the best relationships started when neither person was truly looking. Allowing things to unfold naturally reduces the strain on yourself and your child. It’s a way to solidify the base of the relationship. When you’re trying too hard, you’ll wind up attracting the wrong kind of people most of the time. You might even scare some of the right people away by seeming too needy or desperate.
Trust Your Gut
For the most part, your gut feelings about a person or situation can keep you out of a great deal of trouble. If something feels wrong, then there is a reason. Your body is telling you that something needs to be addressed before the relationship can happen. Some believe this is your subconscious warning you about your current actions. Being with someone should never feel wrong, and you might do well to listen to your body.
Dating can be fun and exhilarating, as long as you’re keeping your feet on the ground. Remember, you’re not just looking for a mate for yourself. Your child will be a great influencing factor when you decide when you’re ready to fish that pond again. Be safe, and put more thought into what you’re doing before playing the field.