When you try to communicate to your teen, it could feel like talking to the cat. At least, the cat may look at you like you’re crazy. Your teen will just probably ignore you while looking at his or her shoes. Luckily, there is a better way to communicate with your adolescent without it seeming like a lecture. By engaging him or her in a conversation, the teen needs to focus on more than just shoes. That’s because it requires more comprehension and brain power to give a response.
Avoid the Lecture Scene
Lectures don’t often work when speaking to a teen. Imagine that you’re talking to someone with Attention Deficit Disorder. While your child might not have ADD, the attention span of the teen could be quite limited. If your lecture continues for more than 10 minutes, there’s a good chance that he or she is thinking about dinner at that point. This is especially true if you’re talking about content that the child does not find interesting or appealing.
Two-Way Communication is Key
When you talk with your child, you’re encouraging communication. This is when both parties have something to contribute to the topic. Instead of running on and on, engage the teen with questions that require more of a response. This makes someone think about the content in order to answer or create additional questions. Asking yes or no questions can be almost as pointless as a lecture since it’s one of the easiest responses to get – even if the answer is wrong.
It’s all about getting the teen mind working and how to get them to comprehend your point. The more you can interact during the conversation; the better the chances for information being retained. He or she will have to understand what you’re trying to say in order to formulate a proper response. In the event of discipline, engaging in this fashion usually helps the teen realize what they did wrong in the first place.
When it comes time to sit with your teen to talk about any particular topic, don’t try to draw the conversation out too long. The child will give you signs when there is no more information to be shared. Anything after this point may be nothing more than a waste of time. If you can keep them engaged in conversation, then that is a different situation all together. Just keep in mind that their minds are always racing, and it may be difficult to try to keep up.