Being a mother is one of the best things that can happen to any woman. Your children become your soul and every breath you take is for them. However, being a single mom can be a challenge. Life after divorce and going into the dating world is frightening to say the least. You may not have been single for a long time, and there is a good chance the rules have changed.
We have collected 5 tips that can help you from making your re-entry into the dating scene a catastrophe.
#1: Don’t wait too long! The sooner you re-enter the dating world, the easier it will be. You definitely need to take a bit of time to recover from the divorce, but you don’t want to take too long to get your feet wet. It can be easy to keep putting it off, and then you’ll get too cozy with being alone, get set in your ways.
#2: Date a wide range of personalities – don’t be too exclusive right off. Cast your dating net wide and far and date multiple men. Don’t get attached and date one man exclusively right from the beginning. Monogamy should be introduced when a relationship as become committed. Don’t force it. By dating several different personalities, you’ll see which type is best for you, or even better, which types aren’t for you.
#3: There really aren’t any rules as to when you should start dating. The circumstances that surround your divorce and how you are feeling emotionally and mentally are dependent on you as an individual. What works for one woman may not work for you. Wait until you feel adequately adjusted and comfortable with your independent life.
#4: Don’t be too quick at getting sexually intimate. Sexual intimacy can give you and him a false conception about where this relationship is and where it’s going. Just as when you were a teenager starting to date, if the guy thinks enough of you, he’ll be willing to wait until you are ready.
#5: Don’t introduce him to the kids too soon. You may feel like you have found the right one, but you don’t’ want to push your kids into this relationship too soon. Depending on your kid’s ages, they could become too attached and when things don’t work out as hoped, they have to go through another loss. For the man, meeting the kids is a big step, and you want to make sure he is ready for this too. And avoid introducing everyone during the holiday season. The divorce is enough for them to handle right now.